What should you do if you become single again? The answer is simple: you're going to concentrate on yourself and your goals. When you're used to being with another person all the time, it's never easy to end a relationship and figure out what to do with yourself. You never imagined the day when you or he would say, "I'm done," or he would say, "I don't want to date you anymore," or it would be mutual. Bottom line, it's time to concentrate on your future plans so that when your husband comes into your life you will be ready and prepared.
Do you feel drained, empty, abandoned, or frustrated because it didn't work out? Are you wondering what to do during this waiting period, now that your focus isn't on a relationship, him, what the two of you are going to do, and so on? I understand that adjusting to and living as a single person can be difficult, but there is good news in the midst of it all, and if I can teach you something, please allow me to share a few things. We don't understand a lot of what happens in our world, but one thing is certain: we were not created to be girlfriend status. Proverbs 18:22 He who finds a wife finds a good thing. And obtains favor from the Lord. Because we want to be a good thing when our husband finds us, singleness is a time to THRIVE. In addition, he will receive favor from the Lord. Let us change our perspective while we are single.
1 Corinthians 7:32-35 says I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs—how he can please the Lord.33 But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife— and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband. I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.
I had to mention this because it is one of those scriptures that pulls at you and makes you wonder, "Should I be single or not?" I read this and realized that as a single woman, whether with or without children, you must be mindful of the man you choose and what his concerns are about the Lord and this world. I believe that men should lead, but he can't lead me to hell. "I'm not interested in that at all!" As women, we must question a man's motives and intentions toward us. We may not always know what that is at first, but I recommend that you pray and pray a lot for God to reveal the answer to you. I only recommend this if you want the right man to marry you rather than just date you.
Never Forget Who You Are
2 Timothy 3:6 says They are the kind who worm their way into homes and gain control over gullible women, who are loaded down with sins and are swayed by all kinds of evil desires,
I know we don't like the word "gullible," but how many times have you thought you had found for "Mr. Right," and he seemed so amazing and charming, and he seemed like he could be "the right one," and OH GOODNESS! THIS IS WHERE THE CRAZINESS BEGINS! Another question for you to consider: how many times have you seen red flags and warning signs to keep it moving and ignored them? Not to say we're gullible, but ignoring the warning signs of fire doesn't make the situation a wise. This isn't the time to be sad about your single status, but to rejoice in the fact that you can gain wisdom and understanding for you future husband and you prepare for marriage.
God tells us in 2 Corinthians 6:14 Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? or in the New Living Translation Don’t team up with those who are unbelievers. How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness?
What's amazing about this is that when you're full of life, passion, and zeal, and you're focused with ambition and ready to succeed, along comes Joe Smoes and his nonsense, and we think we can fix him and his situation because we're naturals. Let's Stop ! Yes, you may be able to assist or "fix" him, but the reality is that you will now neglect all of your work, and if you have children, forget about it! This was not God's intention for all of us. You don't need anyone infiltrating your home, making you feel pretty for a moment, and then after you've sacrificed yourself and your children, he disappears, leaving you feeling like you wish you had stayed focused. Saying to yourself I'd be a lot further ahead, and this is very true so choose wisdom!
So, while you're single, hustle, get your dreams in order, focus on God, and get ready. Pray about the man God has chosen for you, and don't settle for the first man who makes you feel getty and pretty. Remember that you are valuable and deserving of being a boss while you wait for God to send you His son!